Things have been quiet lately

BuckeyeShelby
BuckeyeShelby Member Posts: 196
edited December 2020 in General Cancer
How is everyone? Since we lost Greg, there hasn't been much activity on the board. Everyone doing OK?
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  • centered1
    centered1 Member Posts: 23
    edited November 2020
    I agree, Buckeye. I think Greg would be terribly disappointed in us. This was his baby.
  • Kp2018
    Kp2018 Member Posts: 105
    edited November 2020
    Thanks for asking, BuckeyeShelby. Doing OK here.

    I think everyone's a bit depressed by Greg's passing, and the liveliness of the site really depended on his offering so many inspirational items and posing interesting questions.

    Thanks for your contribution to keeping it going.
  • LiveWithCancer
    LiveWithCancer Member Posts: 470
    edited November 2020
    Everything is good here.

    What's everyone doing for Thanksgiving? My mom (90 years old) initially said she wasn't up to having Thanksgiving but she called a bit ago and thought maybe we should do it. The issue is that our daughter-in-law is not at all careful about where she goes and hates wearing a mask ... I'm really afraid of her bringing the virus with her to Thanksgiving. On the flip side, there's no way I would do a family gathering without inviting her... So ... we pretty much decided we won't do Thanksgiving as a family after all - it is safest that way.
  • po18guy
    po18guy Member Posts: 329
    edited November 2020
    Grief over loss takes some time to work through.
  • Bug
    Bug Member Posts: 394
    edited November 2020
    I was just thinking that, BuckeyeShelby, and then I saw your post. Great minds and all that... Thank you for the post. How are *you* doing? How is the wound?

    We're fine...managing to keep busy. We will have a quiet Thanksgiving - which is fine with us. I'm looking forward to hunkering down on the couch and watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade (I understand there will be some variation of a parade this year??) and the National Dog Show (again, modified).
  • Bengal
    Bengal Member Posts: 518
    edited November 2020
    I think we are dealing with shock and grief right now. Hard to carry on knowing we're without Greg's always cheery outlook, sense of humor and inspiring photos and sayings. It will take some time . On the positive side, glad you are doing so much better Buckeye!
  • BuckeyeShelby
    BuckeyeShelby Member Posts: 196
    edited November 2020
    Hey Bug. Smaller everytime I change the dressing. And there is far less drainage. When the wound nurse discharged me, she was hopeful I could dump the dressing altogether maybe Thanksgiving. Thanks for checking up on me
  • kaki54
    kaki54 Member Posts: 5
    edited November 2020
    I miss Greg! Doing ok. Trying to figure out how to survive on loss of income from Covid.
  • MarcieB
    MarcieB Member Posts: 528
    edited November 2020
    I just woke up (too early) and was thinking the same thing about how we are all missing Greg. I came here to see if there was any word from anyone and I see we are all on the same page. We miss Greg, and po18guy is right - it takes a while to process and work through it. I think this thanksgiving we could all acknowledge being thankful for having known him. What a gift he brought us with his love and encouragement.
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    I believe it's best that I leave my comments to myself.
    In case anyone want to know> I'm more than okay .
  • Teachertina
    Teachertina Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    Glad to see y’all on the site. I agree it’s different without Greg, but we still need each other. Pauline, your comments are still welcome here, please post whatever you need to. I support all of us being caring of each other here. I’m doing fine, just scanxiety about the next scan on Dec 2nd. Our family is not doing a whole family feast this year, there’s 30 of us. Each group is doing their own at home. Hopefully next year will be normal again! Well wishes to you all!
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    Teachertina You wouldn't understand
  • legaljen1969
    legaljen1969 Member Posts: 763
    edited November 2020
    @PaulineJ, I think your comments are welcome here. I think most of us would understand, if given the opportunity. We certainly won't understand what we don't know. And yes, we all want to know if you are okay- much as we all want to know that all of us are okay. Please contribute as you see fit.
    If everyone could just try to be kind, I think that would go a long way in having people contribute.
  • Carool
    Carool Member Posts: 787
    edited November 2020
    Thanks, BuckeyeShelby.

    We here are okay. I ventured by subway into Manhattan on Tuesday to go to dentist. Hope to now avoid public transportation until spring.

    BuckeyeShelby, I’m glad that your wound is diminishing.

    MarcieB, how’re you feeling?

    LWC, we never do much for Thanksgiving, so this year isn’t different for us.

    PaulineJ, good to hear that you’re doing okay.

    kaki54, I hope things improve.

    I hope everyone has a good Thanksgiving, even if it’s a quiet and private one. Stay safe!


  • Teachertina
    Teachertina Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    PaulineJ, I might understand or someone else here could be helpful too. I care about you and hope you will be able to find some comfort here. We are all going through some trying times right now and can share our common issues. We don’t all have to agree on everything, but we do have a group of great cancer patients and survivors that are here for you. You’re part of this group. Best wishes to you!
  • legaljen1969
    legaljen1969 Member Posts: 763
    edited November 2020
    @Teachertina, I think you have a very valid point. Yes, it is very different without Greg's continuous posts to keep the dialogue open and to keep us all thinking and caring. I did not know him as well as many of you did. However, I strongly believe he would want to us carry on as a community and continue to be there for each other. It is hard to lose the leader, and I imagine we all feel a little lost still.
    Along with the loss of Greg, I think many of us have lost our desire to express an opinion about much of anything. Politics and COVID have shut us down, where we have begun to feel testy and angry and scared and... well the list goes on.
    This site was, and still is, a safe zone to discuss our concerns. Greg did a great job of keeping the politics out, and I think we have all done a phenomenal job of self-policing (Yes, I said "policing." Yikes). Perhaps self-regulating is a better way to express it. We have maintained the integrity of the site and I think we are all doing a pretty good job of checking in on each other and keeping up.
    We all come from different places in life. Whether our experiences are geographical, physical, age related, diagnosis related or otherwise- we all have something to contribute to the recipe of the success of this site.
    I am so thankful for all of you.
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    legaljen1969 Like I said>In case anyone want to know> I'm more than okay.No worries when you're in Christ.And I know what's happening/going on.Can't wait to go Home.The kingdom here is not mine.I think you ,may understand a little legaljen1969
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020


    "The only real peace" From a family in Fiji..one of my favorite song

    https://www.facebook.com/laisa.meo/videos/136806020090977
  • faithfully58
    faithfully58 Member Posts: 27
    edited December 2020
    Just thought I would drop in and say I'm doing ok!I have my days!Some are good some are hard...Our house is full of things Greg built so lots of memories I do have.It's hard without my precious husband of 40 years and friend \boyfriend for 51 years!I got him home after being in the hospital for 23 days.He got to see family and friends before he passed.Got to love on our Bella and Journey.He got to sit and sleep in his recliner one last time! We had a wonderful service for him.He was buried in a beautiful barn wood casket we picked! He is buried on the same road we live on.So anytime I leave or come home I can stop and see him or talk to him.I've seen all your comments but not been on to say thank you all.Sometimes it's to overwhelming for me to read..This site meant the world to Greg as well as all of you.He done a wonderful job with it.As well as being a Hero Of Hope he took such pride in going out and speaking! So I will leave you with things Greg lived his life by.He always,always found humor in all situations. Something he got from his Dad.No matter how bad it was he would always say something to make me laugh :) And his favorite saying Tough times never last but tough people do!! And live your life not your cancer.. I will pop in ever now and then :) Much love to you all.Always,always be kind..
  • Carool
    Carool Member Posts: 787
    edited November 2020
    Dear Donna, thank you for your update. I’m so glad that Greg got to go home before he passed.

    As you know, we all miss Greg a lot. We’re so thankful for this site that he built and that has brought together so many cancer survivors and their loved ones. Greg will always be in our hearts, and those who find WhatNext in the future will learn about him.

    I can imagine how hard it is for you to have lost your Greg. I hope his love for you helps.

    Hugs.
  • Teachertina
    Teachertina Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    So good to hear from you Donna. I think we all want to carry on with this site for each other. We just have to figure out how to do it without Greg. We all miss him too. We will keep trying to make it great again, just need some time. Your happy memories of Greg will help you through your difficult journey, that too will take some time. Stay in touch and take care of yourself. Hugs!
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    Just caught you comment Donna.So glad to hear from you. He's really missed here also I'm lost for words.
  • BuckeyeShelby
    BuckeyeShelby Member Posts: 196
    edited November 2020
    Oh Donna, thank you so much for updating us on how you're doing. I'm sure some days are harder than others. But it sounds like you are doing pretty good. I'm so glad for that. And thank you for sharing Greg with us. And I'm glad he shared you as well.
  • Bengal
    Bengal Member Posts: 518
    edited November 2020
    So good to hear from you, Donna, and know that you're doing OK. Thank you for graciously sharing your Greg with all of us. I miss him but nothing like I'm sure you do.and my thoughts are with you.
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    Donna,Wow! You and your husband are alike.I never got so many likes tonight like I use to get from Greg.lol!
  • LiveWithCancer
    LiveWithCancer Member Posts: 470
    edited November 2020
    So happy to see your note, Donna! As you are aware, we miss Greg a lot - I can only imagine how much you miss him and how many memories you see every single day. I smiled when I read that you guys found a barn wood casket - is there anything more appropriate than that?

    We'll look forward to seeing you pop in now and then!
  • Lorie
    Lorie Member Posts: 78
    edited November 2020
    I'm thankful for the day I found this site. I have medical procedure that went fine but left me with two legs that don't work much anymore and a purple toe and nobody can stop figure out why. It's depressing as many of you have felt during your cancer Journeys. your concern for each other is so touching and so needed in these crazy times.

    Donna, so good to hear from you know about Greg's being able to be home. Take couldn't care of yourself now.

    This site is truly filled with cyber angels.

  • Kp2018
    Kp2018 Member Posts: 105
    edited November 2020
    Donna, thank you so much reaching out to us. It gave me comfort to learn that Greg was able to go home and be with family and friends before he passed. In your time of loss and sorrow, you've managed to ease our sadness. Thank you.
  • legaljen1969
    legaljen1969 Member Posts: 763
    edited November 2020
    Donna, thank you for stopping in to say hello and let us know how you are doing. I think the barn wood casket was as appropriate as it gets for Greg. That man definitely had a love of building and tinkering with things. I think of you often, and figured you might stop in when you could find the time or when it didn't all seem like too much.
    Greg will always be the super hero leader, the man with the plan and good words for all. I hope that we may all find a way to move forward with this site to honor Greg and keep our focus moving.
  • PaulineJ
    PaulineJ Member Posts: 205
    edited November 2020
    legaljen1969 You sure have a fantastic gift.You're a great speaker/writer and know exactly what to say and how to say it.Witch I would never have.I guess I was hurt and rejected too much in life.My life hasn't been easy whatsoever Don't want sympathy,but never had support except one man that heard my life (more or less that I could remember)Ended saying"You're an amazing woman,"from a crisis center in Jan of 2019 when we were saying goodbye.
    I appreciate you very much....legaljen1969

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