Not Forgotten

legaljen1969

We all tend to get focused on certain situations at times and lose sight of the forest as we concentrate on the trees. Our world is a mixed up and crazy place right now. Things can feel awfully bleak, but most of us have learned some good coping skills. As we focus on some pressing problems, don't forget that all of us have some knowledge or may know who has the knowledge. Don't be afraid that sharing what you know will take away the focus from someone else's struggle.
If you need help, don't be concerned about reaching out- thinking that everyone is "too busy" for you. We all need to be here for each other even now, and especially now.

JaneA

You are so right. Many of us are five years (or more) out from our diagnosis, yet between the pandemic and the political disagreements that we are seeing in our country, we could all use a few extra hugs.

LiveWithCancer

So true! Thanks for the reminder!

andreacha

LegalJen 1969 I agree with both JaneA and LWC. These are such discouraging times we are trying to survive. Not just with our focus on our illnesses but trying to make sense of what is going on in our country. We are so conscious of keeping ourselves healthy and taking medication and/or treatment faithfully while looking at the irresponsible actions of the masses of people who have no fear of the pandemic sweeping our country. You are right, this is the time for us to band together and care for one another and do our best to stay away from those who don't care.

legaljen1969

Well after being told by a co-worker that if I vote the way she thinks I will vote, she hopes my mammogram shows cancer again because I will deserve it, I am sickened by the way some people behave. We all have our points of view and I am not really looking to get into all of that, but I will say here and now that I would NEVER wish cancer or COVID on anyone. I do not think either one is a "gift" to help rid the world of people with whom we disagree. I think that anyone who believes such nonsense has a sickness of the heart that no medication can cure.
It really shook me up.

I don't care what you believe politically or what you believe about this world, if you have cancer or contract COVID, I hope you are able to beat it and I hope you fight like H-E-double hockey sticks to put it out of your life. Anyone who believes otherwise is really not a good person at all. And if this opinion gets me kicked out of here, then so be it.

Andreacha, I know some locales have been more relaxed in their restrictions than others. It is hard seeing people fighting over whether others "care" about the health of their friends and neighbors and loved ones. I think most of us are ready to put this behind us (COVID) and get back to a life where we can enjoy a little more contact with those we love. I can wait as long as I need to wait, but I am completely over not having contact with my family other than virtually and those times don't even happen as much as I would like.

ChildOfGod4570

legaljen1969 I am totally with you. Nobody has the right to wish cancer upon anyone, and especially over politics! If anyone does contract wither C sickness, I hope they fight it with every fiber of their being! Like all of you, I am also ready for some sense of normalcy and a chance to hug people and enjoy each other again. I surely will take the precautions as we all should; I just am waiting for the day when we can have the healing touches we have missed so dearly. HUGS and God bless.

MarcieB

Jen, the person who said that to you is not worth your angst, much less your attention. I wish I had been there so I could have said, "Did your REALLY just say you hope she gets cancer again?" (in a voice loud enough for everyone around to hear!) I am dreadfully sorry this happened to you. I feel like we are all going a little crazy with the political frenzy going on around us. People I love are posting mean spirited things on facebook and pouncing on anyone with a different opinion. I've pretty much stopped going there and it's hard because it's the only outlet I have to know what is happening in my personal world. (I guess I know what's happening - pure chaos! lol) I think it is safe to assume we have all kinds of differing opinions here among us, but we have that one thing that unites us - we have all looked death right in the face and we are still here. And I bet we have all re-arranged our priorities and have a whole new respect for life. I still struggle with anger - and your co-worker would have triggered me, big time! But, I am not about to knowingly hurt anyone and I don't have patience to hang around with anyone who does.

On that note I am going to post a picture of my halloween mailbox decor, because it is kind of a bright spot for me. I still want to add some flowers, so it is a work in progress, but it celebrates the season. I will post it on our pinboard, please drop by and tell me what you think!

legaljen1969

MarcieB, we were the only ones in the office so she knew she could say and then be able to deny it. I would NEVER say such a thing to anyone, and she knows that. Right now, I really don't know if I have a spirit of forgiveness or grace. That's going to be a hard one to forgive. All I could say to her was that I hoped she never had to face either one, and I would never wish something like that on someone- especially over politics.

I mean, the politicians in Washington (or anywhere else) don't give a rat's behind about us. So many people are willing to throw away relationships with loved ones and cherished friends over people who don't even know we exist. It is very sad to me. The hate and anger in the political ads this time have really taken hold. Usually I just think "stupid politicians and their mud-slinging" but this time its so bad.

Anyhow, my initial post had nothing to do with politics. I just mean we get so focused on one issue that we often forget there are other people here who need encouragement as well, or answers, or direction, or a happy celebration share.

Carool

legaljen1969, I’m sorry your coworker said that. And I like your “Not Forgotten.” Thank you for your post.

Lorie

Wish I had he Gift of Gab to put into words the things I want to say. In the last two weeks I have been in the hospital twice for a life-threatening heart situation and I have had to put my cat of 15 years to sleep. Through these awful times I have received loving care and attention from the people I've chosen to be close to. Even the essential hospital workers were so kind and helpful with this Covid thing lurking.
one comment from anybody like the one you got would stop me from having any kind of future contact with that person.
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Bug

What a horrible person your coworker is, legaljen. Like MarcieB, if I had been there I would have said something, too. I'm sorry you experienced that.

JaneA

Jen - that is such a horrible thing to say to any cancer survivor. I have a longtime "friend" who riding the other side of politics now. We've been friends over 20 years, but she has remarried and evidently, he has been an adverse influence on her humanity. I don't share politics on Facebook, but if I show compassion, she sends me a private message with a snarky remark. I am shocked by what has happened.

ChildOfGod4570

Oh Man, my impulsive side says that even if I heard it through the air vents, I would spread the word like wildfire in any way I could, either in a loud voice or from desk to desk, "Did I hear right? Did [fill in the blank] just say they wanted [someone] to contract cancer or COVID-19!?!" What that lady said was absolutely deplorable! Nobody deserves cancer no matter what their political views are. If it were the other way around, I am sure that lady would be hurt right down to her guts if someone said she deserved a cancer recurrence because of differing political opinions. Some of us are going to be dealing with cancer, be it in active treatment or constant check-ups, longer than either Trump or Biden are in office. Those men don't even know who we are in the first place, so let's focus on getting or staying well and surrounding ourselves with people who would encourage us. HUGS and God bless.

LiveWithCancer

Wow @legaljen1969 - that is unreal!!! Just reading about your coworker makes my blood boil!!!

Teachertina

Your co worker needs to remember- What goes around comes around! Any person that vile is emotionally ill, which can’t be good for the body. You have taken the high road to consider forgiveness. I pity that person. She must be very unhappy to try to bring others down to her level! Hold your head high and be strong against that kind of hate!