Encouragers

legaljen1969

I used to do something on my Facebook page that I called "earth angels." It was a way of speaking kindness into someone's day and recognizing them for something positive. Sometimes it was just telling them I loved their laugh. Sometimes it was a thank you for something specific they had done. We all feel a little unrecognized or unappreciative or even invisible at times. SO, I want to start doing that here. I will be posting on people's walls so hopefully at least the person I am talking about will see what I say. I think we can see what is written on the walls of others. If you have anything positive to add, please respond to any of the threads. As our mamas always told us "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." For that day, it is that person's day in the sun. Let them feel something happy.

Bug

What a great idea, legaljen.

beachbum5817

How nice of you to want to do this! It will be uplifting to read and receive for everyone.

savingrace

This could really brighten someone's day, how nice of you

MarcieB

I need this encouragement today and would love to have some feedback from all of you. This is what happened;

yesterday, I encountered a nice woman whom I only know casually. I do know her husband is a doctor, but I don't even know what kind. Because of covid she had not seen me for a while and expressed surprise to see me *looking so good* (her words, not mine, I am still struggling with hair issues!) She added that I must feel fortunate that things went well for me.

I told her I did. I recounted how my doctors originally said I would need a mastectomy, but after treatment they determined a lumpectomy would be enough. She only looked at me - no response. And then...(because I tend to vomit words!!)...I added, that my pathology report was the best possible kind, it showed only TRT -*tissue responded to treatment* and clean margins.

Her remark to me was, "And you're comfortable with that?" (well...I WAS, but she just shot a huge hole in my confidence...) I wish I could make the world aware of the power of words. One sentence, and she took the wind right out of my sails. I'm sure she didn't mean to, but now I am beginning to fret about my upcoming annual mammogram.Sigh! Am I too touchy? How can we let this stuff roll off our backs?

beachbum5817

Some people need to just have a filter. I don't know that anyone said that to me, but I do remember getting looks of pity. I have an aggressive form of BC, but I sure didn't want anyone offering me pity. I did enough of that myself. Now it seems that no one remembers that I had cancer, and I am ok with that. Just try not to put too much credence in what she said.

petieagnor

I agree, MarcieB. People like that don't even know what they've said or done. I get some really strange remarks as most people don't understand MBC. I tell as little as possible. Some people are great like the produce manager at Kroger on Sun. He said it was "blessed to see me out" as it was cold in NKY. I got a hug from my HVAC man, too. I had on my Bengals outfit, too. It was a good day. I was blessed.

beachbum5817

petieagnor, I am rooting for your team. Go Bengals!!!