carolchristao

Hi i just want to say i been in a similar situation .. I was diagnose 2011 n my hubby said he would be there for me n pay all the bills.. well wow he never did but God step in an made it all right for me and my three kids and mow he wants to come back.. srry but NOi made it thru.. so you are not alone.. i also had a masectomy also. I simetimes look at my scars and cry but when i am done shedding my tears me n my kids watch tv or go to the mall. I just find things yo do that makes ME AND MINES happy.. Stay strong..

Carol, I am so sorry about your husband leaving. For some people, it is difficult to think about losing someone significant in your life, and so they think leaving will be easier than facing the possibility of losing you to IBC. My husband shut down, and it was like he just decided to isolate himself and not participate and then he could wish it away. Its been 6 yrs since I finished treatment and still he isolates himself, even though I have started doing more things. With Chemo I developed Rheumatoid arthritis. It tends to limit my ability to do things I used to enjoy doing like pottery, hiking. I get so fatigued sometimes, I need a nap in the afternoon just to be good for the evening. That nap used to be at 1pm and now I can go til 3 pm! But he doesn't see that as he's at work. I was forced out of my job (RN) because of the treatments and then RA. Try and keep the people who are supportive around you. Don't hide the fact that your hubby left. It is not Your shame, it is his. As for your hair, I see it is growing back right? It may be curly for awhile, but it generally goes back to what it was before cancer. I remember the itch before it fell out. My onc said it was all those hair follicles screaming! But they will recover, and they come back. My hair is so fine now and not as thick, but its hair and I still wear the caps just to keep my head warm. You are not freaky looking, you are a strong person who can face anything now because you have faced this and survived! HUgs Sorry this was so long. I have survived 7 yrs since diagnosis.

I read your note about about feeling too tired to be a supportive wife right now, and I totally understand!! I feel the same way many days! I try to remember a something I heard on tv once. Marriage takes a 100% effort. Sometimes it's 50 / 50, but sometimes one person has to give 90%, because the other can only give 10%. Now is our 10% time. We'll find our strength again, but we are in need now. Good luck to you, and let yourself accept all the help that you need!

Happy New Year Carolchristao, it will get better. Sending (((HUGS))) to you!!!

Hi carolchristao,
The best way to battle for your life is to celebrate your life. Have a very Happy New Year. It will be better.

enjoy your good scan! So happy for you!

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