Danielle3

Good afternoon Danielle3. You have been on my mind a lot lately. We went through chemo treatments at the same time. I always looked for your posts to know what to expect for my treatment. Hope all is well with you. Sue

Hi, Danielle! Been a while. How are you doing these days? I'm okay. Hugs, Carol

Hi, Danielle! How're you doing these days? I hope you are feeling okay and acclimating to your reconstruction. Love, Carol

Hi, Danielle. You've been on my mind. We haven't heard from you since your operation, and I'm hoping you are healing well. I'm not trying to intrude, and I know you may not be in the mood to write now. Just sending you more hugs. Carol

Danielle, how're you doing? Sending you a hug. Carol

HI Danielle. I just wanted to check in with you to see how your surgery went and if you are recouping well. You have been on my mind and definitely in my prayers.

Also...this may sound a little corny, but listen to Katy Perry's song Roar. :-) On days that I felt blue, unsure, etc...I found great motivation in it and it made me remember that we are in control, we brush ourselves off, and we are champions!!! I would attach it here, but can't figure it out. Lol!! Chin up!!

Hey, Jersey Girl! So, how are you doing? Are you able to relax and be calm? I probably wouldn't be able to do that - at least not most of the time - but I'm generally a nervous wreck. I hope you are better than I am at allowing your mind to rest and dwell on pleasant things. Hugs, Brooklyn Lady

Danielle Last night I had a couple of sleepless hours. I used them to pray for you and others on this site.

How are you doing, Danielle? I haven't seen any posts from you lately. I hope you are well.

OMG, let's not even TALK about belly fat! I'm glad you'll have the tummy tuck as a benefit! And glad you can see the light at the end of the long tunnel.

I'm fine. Was worried about my right breast (the tumor was in my left), but everything is okay. My imagination goes wild sometimes.

And let me, us, know how your reconstruction is.

Hugs, Carol

Sorry about the triplets (posts)! My cell phone (my only way to write on WhatNext) isn't working well, and I didn't realize the posts went through, so I kept reposting. Will try to delete.

OMG, let's not even TALK about belly fat! I'm glad you'll have the tummy tuck as a benefit! And glad you can see the light at the end of the long tunnel.

I'm fine. Was worried about my right breast (the tumor was in my left), but everything is okay. My imagination goes wild sometimes.

And let me, us, know how your reconstruction is.

Hugs, Carol

OMG, let's not even TALK about belly fat! I'm glad you'll have the tummy tuck as a benefit! And glad you can see the light at the end of the long tunnel.

I'm fine. Was worried about my right breast (the tumor was in my left), but everything is okay. My imagination goes wild sometimes.

And let me, us, know how your reconstruction is.

Hugs, Carol

Hi, Danielle! So how's my Jersey Girl doing these days? Love, Carol, Brooklyn "Girl"

Danielle, how are you? Are you almost finished with Taxol! I wish you a happy and healthy 2016 - a much better year than this last one. Hugs -

Hi, Danielle! So, how're you doing? I haven't seen that red hat recently! I hope the Taxol side effects have tapered off. Big hug -

Danielle, wishing you and yours a happy Thanksgiving! Big Brooklyn hug! Carol

HI Danielle. I'm Bev. I Just wanted to check in with you to see how you are doing? I took chemotherapy before surgery with taxotere, perjeta and herceptin. Then in October, I did the bilateral mastectomy. I am stage 1, no lymph node involvement and triple positive for her2, estrogen, and progesterone. I started the after surgery chemo today of taxotere, carboplatin and herceptin. I go once every three weeks. I had invasive ductal carcinoma- aggressive. How are your side effects? Hopefully you have very few. Anyway, I just wanted to check in with you. I'm in Iowa. We just got our first major snowfall. Brr! Write back when you get a chance. Bev

Danielle, so, how're you doing? Hugs, Carol

Danielle, so, how're you doing? Hugs, Carol

Danielle3, how're you? I haven't seen any recent posts from you. I hope you're doing well. Hugs, Carol

Hi Danielle3...how are you doing after this last round? Do you feel more in control because you have two treatments under your belt? Hope you're proud of how far you've already come. Keep fighting...

Hi Danielle3....not good. Get up out of bed. Get a good night of sleep, take a rest, but don't spend your day in bed letting the cancer control your life. From the WhatNext FB page..."Live your Life, NOT your Cancer."

Brush off those thoughts of "if" I beat this....focus on each step and what you are going to do to beat it....for you, for your children, for your family and for your friends.

Remember my mantra, "Ya Gotta Do Whatcha Gotta Do!" I'd tell my doctor that if he told me I had to climb up the wall, across the ceiling and down the opposite wall in order to survive, I'd find a way.

Have something to look forward to each day. Something important and rewarding. Perhaps going to your child's sports event or concert. Meeting a friend for lunch. Treating yourself to a walk on the beach. A trip out for ice cream. Watch your favorite movie or your favorite TV series from your childhood (check your local library, they have large dvd collections). Fine, if you have a tough day, rest and move the activity to the next day.

Chin up, pull up those big girl pants, put on those boxing gloves and grit those teeth. There are so many people who expect you to kick its a$$....so do it!

Hi Danielle3...how are you doing? Resting up? Relaxing and trying not to let the cancer control your life? Don't let it affect your life any more than it has to. You've got one treatment in the bag...be proud of yourself! Have a great weekend!

Danielle3, I think you started chemo today. Hope that is going well. Sending good thoughts your way.

How are you doing? Have you received any updates that you have been waiting for? I am hoping your waiting period is over…the hurry up and wait part is in some ways the worst. I felt that when I at least knew what I was dealing with, I could buckle up and get mentally ready to fight. Thinking of you from across the country!!

I was terrified before my first chemo treatment and I have to say it wasn't as terrible as I had feared so stay hopeful! Some people have limited side effects and I have found that even though mine are not, the medications have helped me to really, really manage them. I have struggled with diet on the days I don't feel well and just have to eat what I can tolerate. Don't feel bad if you have to eat things you wouldn't normally---you will do the BEST you can. Do you know when you start yet? Good luck and keep us posted.

Hi, we're all seem to be writing you. I want you to know whether you get medical help to help sleep, cope, etc. that you should try to make peace with yourself. That will do more for healing than anything. You have faith in god, I can tell that from your posts. You are praying for me, and I'm thankful.

For myself, I don't feel that I'm a better person, I don't feel like I'm a stronger person-not mentally, not emotionally, not spiritually, and especially I'm not physically stronger-I'm 73. Some people say that if life gives you lemons-make lemonade---hey, hey, hey--Where are we supposed to find the sugar? When I was a teenager, we used lemon juice to streak our hair and have blonde highlights-honest-that was the 1950s. What helps is to find something to focus on-I was doing 500 to 1500 piece jigsaw puzzles. Since you are a prayer warrior-you will have meditation shoved down your throat. I want you to know that brain scans show that during prayer the same parts of the brain light up and work that light up during mediatation-sending out hormones to help us. So don't let yourself be bullied. I went to a cancer support and the leaders made fun of 2 women that said-they did like yoga, but didn't meditate-they prayed.. I got mad and filed a complaint with their director. At the next meeting, they said that you can pray and do yoga. But try to find something to do that relaxes you, and you focus on that--in spite of my notorious bad temper, I didn't throw puzzle pieces at anyone.

Some people journal-that's another thing that lemon juice is good for-invisible ink, so you can say whatever you want, without anybody reading it. LOL---There are a lot of prayer warriors here, some very wise and kind people. We're all here rooting for you- and I'm praying for peace. You don't need to act brave or calm, but you can get peace. I think that you started that process by writing us and sharing your anguish with us. Spiritual and virtual hugs. Nonnie below has been a spiritual rock for me. Carool is really great-so many that I can't name-

Hi Danielle3. I see you're from Sicklerville. I'm also in the Cherry Hill area. Where are your doctors located? I had Stage III Colon Cancer 4+ years ago and I received my treatments at Penn Cherry Hill (with UPenn's blessing). They were wonderful, and I celebrate that I'm almost 4 years cancer-free.

I'm sorry that you have to be here on WhatNext, but there are so many wonderful people here who provide encouragement and useful information for you as you go through this difficult time.

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