JasmineG

Hello. My husband just finished radiation for SCC on his right tonsil and lymph nodes on the right side of his neck. It appears from your profile that we are in very similar stages of this cancer journey. I just wanted to reach out and say hi from Minneapolis, MN.

You are dealing with grief second by second, my husband was diagnosed with high grade brain cancer when he was 57. He never complained, never asked for anything, made his own decision as to what treatment he would elect. He chose whole brain radiation only. I was the one who built the wall. Although I had studied loss, death, grief in college I did the human norm...steeled myself from my own pain. I never cried in front of him, the people in the grocery store must have thought I was going mad, I shopped wet cheeked, cried driving to and from. I hosted friends, family, even an old crush; watched him hug his mother for the last time. He only wept twice, once over leaving his family and once for the loss of his treasured career as a nuclear astrophysicist. Watching him brave the losses shredded my heart. It would be prudent to get some help with the psychological/emotional roller coaster you both are on, it is not the norm for a man to see himself as the patient, to be helpless, to not fulfill his perceived obligations as the keeper of the clan. I will hold you in my heart and prayers.

Good luck and prayers are with you

Hey Jasmine......Hi from Sebring.
Check out this Hopeful site below AND his facebook page.
ALSO....a great new book by Kelly Turner PhD called RADICAL REMISSIO....
I feel sorry for MY wife and know how hard this must be for both of you. I'm depressed a lot.......

http://www.chrisbeatcancer.com/

Good Luck!
Barry

I am here to help in any way that I can. Please feel free to ask any question.

Welcome to the WhatNext family! The WhatNext family is made up of people like you who are looking for help or looking to help others. To help you along your journey the WhatNext family has put together a Beginner's Guide to Cancer that I highly recommend you check-out here: http://bit.ly/10BQKCi. Also, please do not hesitate to reach out to others or ask for help.

Wishing you the best.

David
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