Dear Beth,
When you call in for your husband, try to phone in that your husband may be aggressive due to a stroke. That way the Paramedics who will be coming may be able to be prepared in advance with medication to sedate him (I'm completely uncertain of this so don't bank on it). I don't know anything about prison hospitals, just that if a patient is ill enough that they take a patient to a regular one. If you explain that your husband has Cancer and has likely had a stroke, the police aren't going to be likely to arrest him, just help the Paramedics get him to the hospital.
For your own well being, I'm going to recommend that you call CancerCare for support. They have wonderful Social Workers whose specialty is Cancer or Cancer patients' caregivers and you definitely need more support than I can provide when I log in occasionally. I'm happy to help when I can but my job (as a Librarian) is to offer referrals for the right folks or agencies for people to see. As a patient myself, I really sympathize, because I know what it's like, and I know how difficult it must be for you, being so young (my friends' mother was widowed at 32 with 3 kids), but I think you'll feel much better after speaking to them at CancerCare. Give them a try and let me know how that goes...
Warm wishes,
Aliza
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August 2013