Yorkleeann

Hello again,
I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you. I will be thinking of you and your husband the next few days! I do hope the scan goes well. I would like to tell you more about us but I don't want to post it for the world to see. Anyway best to both of you and keep me posted. Remember to let me know when you would like any information on Colorado and places to go. I know it's far away but who knows maybe you will take a quick trip out here with your husband. Moxie

Hello again,
Well my boyfriend has his first Pet Scan the middle of September too. He hasn't been as up as your husbands at least that's what it sounds like. I wish I could help him he's so depressed and it seems the only time he forgets what he has gone through is when he plays golf. He's always tired, he has no interest in any type of physical affection and he just feels like he's just going through the motions of life. He knows that he doesn't want to live the rest of his life like that but he doesn't know how to get out of how he's feeling. Do you have any suggestions? He says I'm a reminder of the life he had that he loved and it sounds as if I make it worse for him. My heart is broken and I told him I will give him all the space he needs but I believe that the more he is by himself the more depressed he gets. He is seeing a therapist but the only thing she tells him is it takes time. She doesn't give him anything to work on. What do either of you think? Thank you for your help.
Moxie8

Hello again. Thanks for response to my post yesterday. I look forward to "turning the corner" so to speak with my husband and his condition. My heart just breaks for him and there is very little I can do for him at this point. I try to encourage him by offering new and different food ideas. We just keep trying things and I guess that is all that we can do for now.

As for some of your questions - I have no children but have MANY blessings in life - I consider my husband one of my biggest blessings. We reside in MN and are trying to enjoy the beautiful summer here. My husband still loses his energy pretty quickly but we are trying to do things. At least he is putting on a good face and trying to maintain a positive attitude that his condition will improve with time. All we can o is hope.

My husband has his first PET scan scheduled for early September. My biggest fear is that the cancer comes back, but I am trying not to think of that. The Drs tell us that his prognosis is good but the cancer word alone is really scary stuff.

Anyway, thanks again for you response to my questions and for reaching out. Please keep in touch throughout your journey. God Bless you and your husband.

Hello thank you for reaching out. My significant other (boyfriend) had stage 2. He has had two surgeries the last four months and he's been told that they think that they got all of the cancer but he won't know for a few more weeks after a full body scan. He is very fortunate but he is still very depressed. He had a portion of his tongue removed and he has trouble eating, drinking, talking and he is always so tired. He says his tiredness is the worst. Does this get better? I think sometimes he's tired because he's depressed. Do you have any suggestions? We haven't kissed for four months. Is this normal? Will this change? He says he doesn't have any interest because he always has junk in his mouth and his jaw and neck hurts. Will that change? Thank you again for reaching out.

It's wonderful you have found ways to cope. I am trying to figure out what I can do too. I love being with him but quite often he wants to be alone. He says it's easier being alone because he feels so guilty when he's with me because he doesn't féel like a man anymore he feels broken. How can I help him? I wish the best to you and your husband. Cancer really sucks! Take care

Hello. It appears that we are in similar situations. My husband is presently 4 months out from the end of his radiation treatments for tonsil cancer that spread into a few lymph nodes. Is your husband able to eat many foods now? My husband is still on a predominantly liquid diet due to taste and saliva issues. We are sure hoping that gets better with time. Quality of life not so great right now and cannot put any weight back on. Any experience you could share would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

My cancer was scc of the left tonsil and lymph nodes. Mine had metasticized and 8 of 19 nodes were positive. Each of us is different. Let us know how we can help.

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