Hello janetp, Welcome to WhatNext, a great place to find others who are experiencing the same thing that you and your husband are facing. I myself am a 13 year, stage IV, pancreatic cancer survivor. If you would like to view a video of Greg, (mgr WhatNext), and myself going over my journey you can view it at the following link:
http://youtu.be/vsnyYsRT0BAI realize it is early yet, but there is no need for you to take this journey alone. On this website are several people who would gladly reach out and hold onto you as you take this journey with your spouse. It would also do him good to join in on WhatNext.
My Best to You and your Husband,
Russ