Dear Jeanne,
I am so sorry you are going through this alone. I can't imagine the pain your heart is feeling. I sometimes wonder if loved ones distance themselves to be in a sort of denial. Maybe your daughter does not know how to handle her thoughts and emotions on what you are going through. I wish you lived closer as I would love to offer more emotional support for you. Losing your life partner has got to be completely devastating. To have your heart, trust, love invested for so many years. Maybe when you get through this nightmare - it will be a rebirth and you will find someone that deserves the special person you are and you will find a true happiness and love. Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be, but know that at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without the small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. Most importantly, if you love someone tell them. And finally, enjoy looking forward to learning a new lesson each day and enjoying the journey. Please keep me posted - you will be in my prayers
((((hugs)))) Kim
Hi Jeanne!, It's been awhile since I've been on here. Just thinking about you and wanted to see how your doing? I hope all is well. Take Care!0August 2016
Hi jeannewinter, Thank you so much for your response to my crazy question. I may have to reluctantly agree with your idea to never look at the Rx warnings, because you are absolutely right that I will end up in an institution! Lol, though some friends and family are amazed I haven't ended there before this. I'm So sorry about your lymphedema, and hopefully your doctor will have a solution for you soon. I'm very happy to hear about your relationship with your oncologist. I agree that is an important part of your recovery! Thanks for your kind, thoughtful and humorous advice!0July 2015
I was diagnosed with cancer about a year after the husband left under similar circumstances. I thought those kind of things only happened to unlucky me.0March 2015
Dear Jeanne,
